Emotional Support Resources
Need Someone To Talk To?
You can feel a lot of emotions and thoughts surrounding your abortion. You might feel happy, relieved, sad, guilty, or a combination of emotions.
There are local therapists and national counseling hotlines out there. They’re staffed by pro-choice people who will support you, no matter how you feel about your abortion. Here are a few options:
These therapists are supportive and prepared to provide abortion and pregnancy loss
counseling. All of these providers take insurance; contact them directly to learn more.
- HMHB Hawaii Perinatal Mental Health Resources: https://www.hmhb-hawaii.org/programs/mental-health-counseling
- Allana Wade Coffee, PhD: https://www.drallanacoffee.com/ or (808) 260-9893
- Blair Keener, LCSW: https://www.blairkeener.com/perinatalmentalhealth
- Simone Maciejewski, PsyD: 808-636-4789
- Clare Rountree, PhD: https://www.rountreepsychology.com/ or 808-489-5919
Hotlines and Text Lines:
All Options (1-888-493-0092)
(503-493-0092) Outside US and Canada
Mon-Fri 7 am-10pm (Pacific Daylight Time)
Sat-Sun 7 am-3pm (Pacific Daylight Time)
All Options Mission
All Options promotes unconditional and judgment-free support for the full spectrum of decisions, feelings, and experiences with pregnancy, parenting, abortion, and adoption. Through direct service and social change strategies, we are building a world where all people can make the reproductive decisions that are right for them, without coercion or limitation, and where the dignity of lived experiences is affirmed and honored.
Faith Aloud (1-888-717-5010)
Faith Aloud wants every woman to feel confident and happy after her decision. We want every woman to feel supported. We believe that women are good, created in the image of God, and able to make difficult decisions. We believe this power to make personal decisions is good and given to us by God. Many women feel judged by people around them who want them to feel badly about their difficult life choices. We will not burden you with moral judgments about your pregnancy and choices. We will listen to your needs and concerns, help you explore all possible choices and will honor your decisions. We want to offer you an opportunity for candid dialogue about your experience and provide the support you need to move forward in a healthy way. Our specially trained counselors are clergy and religious counselors: Roman Catholic, Jewish, Unitarian-Universalist, Protestant Christian, and Buddhist. Persons of no particular religious faith are equally welcome to receive our services. All counselors have the minimum of a Master’s degree that includes theological training and have also completed specialized training in pregnancy options and abortion counseling.
National Abortion Federation Hotline (1-800-772-9100)
The NAF Hotline is the only toll-free source of information about abortion and referrals to providers of quality care in the U.S. and Canada. We provide callers with unbiased, factual information about abortion in English, Spanish, and French. We receive thousands of calls a week from women, their partners, families and friends. The Hotline offers:
- Factual information about pregnancy and abortion
- Confidential, non-judgmental support
- Referrals to quality abortion providers in the caller’s area (1-877-257-0012)
- Referrals to funding sources
- Help in understanding state abortion restrictions
- Case management and limited financial assistance for women in difficult situations
People who call the Hotline come from various backgrounds and situations. We are here to offer our assistance and resources because we believe all women should be treated with dignity and given the respect their individual situations deserve.
(510-446-7977) for those outside the US
Mon-Fri 5pm-10pm (Pacific Daylight Time)
Exhale offers a free, After-Abortion Talkline that provides emotional support, resources and information. The talkline is available to women and girls who have had abortions and to their partners, friends, allies and family members. All calls are completely confidential and counselors are non-judgmental.
The talkline is staffed by volunteer peer counselors who have successfully completed more than 50 hours of training. Counselors are trained in Exhale’s Empowerment Model, which is a lens for understanding people’s unique experiences with abortion. The Model is based on three key principles:
- Each caller is a whole, complex person
- Counselors respect each caller’s belief system (social, cultural, political and religious)
- Counselors work with callers to build or extend existing support networks
Women and men of all backgrounds call the Exhale talkline. Some people feel relief that the abortion is finally over and they just want to tell someone. Others feel a sense of loss and are looking for ways to work through their grief. Parents, friends and partners want to learn how they can best provide support. Women may call the day of their abortion, a month after or years later. At Exhale, we believe there is no “right” way to feel after an abortion. We also know that feelings of happiness, sadness, empowerment, anxiety, grief, relief or guilt are common. Abortion can be hard to talk about and finding the right person to talk with can be even harder. Exhale provides the opportunity to talk with someone that supports and respects you, in a safe and confidential environment. Both websites also offer more reproductive resources, such as books, websites, places to find abortion funds and clinics, and other hotlines.
Connect & Breathe (1-866-647-1764)
Tuesdays 6pm-9pm ET
Thursdays 6pm-9pm ET
Saturday 10am-2pm ET
At Connect & Breathe we know finding the right person to talk to after having had an abortion may be difficult. We are here to listen. Whether your abortion occurred yesterday or years ago, our goal is to help you feel connected in a positive way with your decision and find peace.
Connect & Breathe provides a talk-line staffed by people trained to listen and help you find peace. We trust you and your choice. We can help by simply listening or providing you with other resources in your area – both religious and non-religious – who can also help you connect with your decision in a way that affirms you.